Whining and complaining
People love to complain. It makes us feel better, and every day we find things to complain about. Our complaining does not typically help our problems, though. Society today may take some of the blame for this. We tend to utter our disapproval and annoyances under our breaths or to unhearing ears, not to those directly related to our problem or who can do something about it.
Why is it that we love to complain but we don’t like to do anything productive about it? We find little things and big things to complain about in nearly every aspect of our lives.
When you have a problem with something a teacher has written on your paper or test, do you fume and rant to your friends about it? Probably. Do you go to the teacher and discuss it to try to come to an understanding? Probably not. But you won’t get anywhere with only doing the former. It may feel good to vent, but nothing will change.
If you have a problem with something an acquaintance has said about you, do you go talk to them about it? Probably not. Instead, you complain about it to your friends and call the other person bad names. Putting the obvious lack of Christian values aside for this argument, where will this actually get you? Nowhere. Now all you have done is put yourself on the same level as the person who you think is talking bad about you, and nothing has been accomplished.
Are we that lazy that we can’t confront the problem face-on? Are we scared? Or, what I hear most often, do we “not want to cause trouble?” We cause more trouble by letting a problem get under our skin and fester. So many issues could be solved by going directly to the source and working it out. Venting and complaining feels good. It helps to get things off our chest and makes us feel better. In the long run, though, it generally doesn’t help the problem we have.
Sometimes we vent about things we can’t fix, like how unfair life is and what a bad hair day we are having or why can’t we just be taller. But sometimes we vent and complain about things that matter and that can be changed. These are the times we need to buck up and face the problem head on. Go to the source. Let your thoughts be known. It could be as simple as telling someone how you feel or writing a “letter to the editor” about an issue you have. Complaining, or venting, is good for you sometimes. But don’t let important issues stay unresolved because you are not willing, or are too lazy, to make an effort to fix it.
If I can leave you with anything, I leave you with this: if you have a problem, go to the source. Take action or nothing will get accomplished. No one is without fault, but no one can fix things or make amends if they are not made aware of the situation.